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When Managing Your Emotions at Work Really Counts
by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, The EQ Coach The 112 3/16 carat Hope Diamond first showed up in the hands of French merchant, Jean Tavernier. It was triangular and crudely cut. Tavernier sold the diamond to King Louis XIV 1668. He had the stone recut, resulting in a 67 1/8-carat stone. It was set in gold and the King wore it on a ribbon around his neck for state occasions. In 1749, King Louis XV, had the stone reset. During the French Revolution, he was unable to take it with him when he tried to flee France. All the jewels of the French Royal Treasury were turned over to the government. During the looting that followed, the then-called "French Blue diamond" was stolen. It landed in the hands of King George IV of England, and was sold on his death to settle debts. It next became the possession of Henry Hope (from whence it's name), and, upon his death it went on to other Hopes, and then a series of jewelry companies. It then became the possession of Evalyn Walsh McLean, in 1912, who had it reset as we see it today ( http://www.nmnh.si.edu/minsci/hope.jpg ) and made it famous! After her death, it was donated to the Smithsonian Institution, where it is today. A STEADY HAND REQUIRES EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE This diamond has been cut several times, and any of those times it could've ended up a pile of worthless stones. The cut of a diamond adds of subtracts greatly to its value, and is completely in the hands of the diamond cutter. They analyze the rough diamond and determine how to cut it in order to extract the most beauty and profit. One cut by the hand of the diamond cutter can make the difference between $100,000 and nothing; and notice it's still done by hand. Now here are three EQ questions: 1. Aside from disease or injury, what makes our hands shake? 2. Would Optimism make a difference to the diamond cutter's ability to do the work? 3. Does any of this apply to your job, or parts of it? If you read about our current-day diamond cutters, you'll see that most of them are at least second generation and mostly male. One wonders what combination of genes and personality contribute to this. IN OUR WORK We can forget that emotions are to be managed and there are times when one must be able to set them aside and concentrate. EQ means knowing when and what to do with the emotions, while still being able to experience them. Sometimes we need to think, and sometimes not think; sometimes act on feelings, and sometimes not. There are also different forms of learning. Try, for instance, telling someone how to tie a bow. You've probably been doing it so long, it's "automatic," i.e., (1) your hands know it but your "mind" doesn't, and (2) to think about it would mess you up. Check out what's a well-cut diamond and what isn't: http://www.nandjimports.com/images_body/jpg_cuts.jpg . © Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, The EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . Individual and executive coaching, The EQ Foundation Course©, The EQ Learning LabT, and EQ Alive! - training and certifying EQ coaches. Visit The EQ eBook Library - http://www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html . Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for FREE ezine. Call 210-496-0678 for immediate assistance.
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